《時(shí)代周刊》封面人物UCB畢業(yè)演講：你走過那些艱難的影響

美國(guó)大學(xué)向來注重畢業(yè)演講，因此，每年的美國(guó)名校畢業(yè)典禮上都會(huì)邀請(qǐng)業(yè)內(nèi)政治、商業(yè)、科技等領(lǐng)域的風(fēng)云人物進(jìn)行演講，為本校的畢業(yè)生們傳授經(jīng)驗(yàn)。下面留學(xué)監(jiān)理網(wǎng)的小編為大家分享的是，《時(shí)代周刊》封面人物，一位在硅谷有著影響力、Facebook首席運(yùn)營(yíng)官扎克伯格的左膀右臂，美國(guó)薪酬最高的女高管雪莉·桑德伯格(Sheryl   Sandberg)在加州伯克利大學(xué)的畢業(yè)演講。

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她被美國(guó)媒體譽(yù)為“硅谷最有影響力女人”，身居福布斯百?gòu)?qiáng)女性榜第5名，《時(shí)代周刊》的封面人物，并被評(píng)為全球最具影響力的人物。

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但當(dāng)她的事業(yè)蓬勃發(fā)展的時(shí)候，他的丈夫卻撒手人寰。這對(duì)常人來說，是難以承受的打擊，但她堅(jiān)強(qiáng)的挺過來，并且在加州大學(xué)伯克利分校UCB的畢業(yè)演講中，為大家分享，她言到“最終塑造你的是你走過的那些艱難?！?span style="text-align: center;"> 

以下是她在UCB的研究稿節(jié)選：

I learned that in the face of the void—or in the face of any challenge—you   can choose joy and meaning.

我明白了，即便悲傷至空虛，或是面對(duì)巨大挑戰(zhàn)，你仍然可以選擇快樂和有意義的生活。

Thank you, Marie. And thank you esteemed members of the faculty, proud   parents, devoted friends, squirming siblings.

謝謝瑪麗。謝謝尊敬的老師們、自豪的父母、忠誠(chéng)的朋友們，各位同仁。

Congratulations to all of you…and especially to the magnificent Berkeley   graduating class of 2016!

祝賀所有人……尤其是伯克利2016級(jí)的畢業(yè)生們!

It is a privilege to be here at Berkeley, which has produced so many Nobel   Prize winners, Turing Award winners, astronauts, members of Congress, Olympic   gold medalists…. and that’s just the women!

在伯克利求學(xué)是一件幸事，這里出過眾多的諾貝爾獎(jiǎng)得主、圖靈獎(jiǎng)獲得者、宇航員、國(guó)會(huì)議員和奧運(yùn)會(huì)金牌得主……而且都有女性!

Today is a day of thanks. A day to thank those who helped you get   here—nurtured you, taught you, cheered you on, and dried your tears. Or at least   the ones who didn’t draw on you with a Sharpie when you fell asleep at a   party.

今天應(yīng)該感謝。要感謝幫助你們一步步走到這里的人，感謝培養(yǎng)你，教導(dǎo)你，鼓勵(lì)你，為你擦過眼淚的人。至少也該感謝你在聚會(huì)上睡著后沒用記號(hào)筆在你臉上亂畫的小伙伴們。

Today is a day of reflection. Because today marks the end of one era of your   life and the beginning of something new.

今天應(yīng)該沉思。因?yàn)榻裉煲馕吨闵幸粋€(gè)時(shí)代結(jié)束，一個(gè)新時(shí)代開始。

Today will be a bit different. We will still do the caps and you still have   to do the photos. But I am not here to tell you all the things I’ve learned in   life. Today I will try to tell you what I learned in death.

但今天會(huì)有點(diǎn)不一樣?；蛟S你們還是會(huì)扔帽子，還是會(huì)拍很多照片。但我今天不想傳授生活方面的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，而是想講講從親人離世后的領(lǐng)悟。

I have never spoken publicly about this before. It’s hard. But I will do my   very best not to blow my nose on this beautiful Berkeley robe.

我以前從未公開談?wù)撨^這件事，其實(shí)很難說出口。我會(huì)盡量控制住情緒免得哭出來，弄臟這件漂亮的伯克利長(zhǎng)袍不太好。

One year and thirteen days ago, I lost my husband, Dave. His death was sudden   and unexpected. We were at a friend’s fiftieth birthday party in Mexico. I took   a nap. Dave went to work out. What followed was the unthinkable—walking into a   gym to find him lying on the floor. Flying home to tell my children that their   father was gone. Watching his casket being lowered into the ground.

一年零13天前，我的丈夫戴夫去世了，很突然也很意外。我們?nèi)ツ鞲鐓⒓优笥训?0歲生日聚會(huì)。我睡了個(gè)午覺，戴夫去鍛煉。接下來的事完全不可想象，我走進(jìn)健身房看見他躺在地板上。后來我坐飛機(jī)回家將這個(gè)不幸的消息告訴了孩子們，最后親眼看著他的棺材下葬。

Dave’s death changed me in very profound ways. I learned about the depths of   sadness and the brutality of loss. But I also learned that when life sucks you   under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. I   learned that in the face of the void—or in the face of any challenge—you can   choose joy and meaning.

戴夫的死深刻地改變了我。我終于明白了什么叫切膚之痛，也體會(huì)到痛失所愛的殘酷。但我也明白了，當(dāng)生活給你當(dāng)頭一棒，墮入悲傷之海，你能做的就是奮力游向水面，大口呼吸。我明白了，即便悲傷至空虛，或是面對(duì)巨大挑戰(zhàn)，你仍然可以選擇快樂和有意義的生活。

I’m sharing this with you in the hopes that today, as you take the next step   in your life, you can learn the lessons that I only learned in death. Lessons   about hope, strength, and the light within us that will not be extinguished.

我跟你們分享親人離世的感受，是希望能在你們走上社會(huì)時(shí)就能理解失去的痛苦，明白什么是希望、力量和心中永不熄滅的火苗。

You will almost certainly face more and deeper adversity. There’s loss of   opportunity: the job that doesn’t work out, the illness or accident that changes   everything in an instant. There’s loss of dignity: the sharp sting of prejudice   when it happens. There’s loss of love: the broken relationships that can’t be   fixed. And sometimes there’s loss of life itself.

生活中總會(huì)碰到很多難處理的事。有時(shí)錯(cuò)失機(jī)會(huì)：工作不合適，遭遇疾病或事故因而一切瞬間改變。有時(shí)尊嚴(yán)盡失：刻薄的偏見常常刺痛人心。有時(shí)緣盡人散：親密關(guān)系一旦破碎就難重圓。有時(shí)不僅是生離，還要面臨死別。

The question is not if some of these things will happen to you. They will.   Today I want to talk about what happens next. About the things you can do to   overcome adversity, no matter what form it takes or when it hits you. The easy   days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days—the times that challenge you   to your very core—that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just   by what you achieve, but by how you survive.

問題不是這些事情會(huì)不會(huì)發(fā)生，它們遲早都會(huì)來的。我想說的是發(fā)生之后怎么辦，不管什么困難也不管具體什么時(shí)候遭遇，關(guān)鍵是怎樣從困境中振作起來。其實(shí)只有經(jīng)歷了真正難捱的日子，被逼到崩潰邊緣，你才能真正了解自己。要發(fā)掘真實(shí)的內(nèi)心，不僅要看取得的成就，更要看逆境中如何奮起。

We all at some point live some form of option B. The question is: What do we   do then?

我們總會(huì)碰到不盡如人意只能用B計(jì)劃的時(shí)候，問題是：該怎么面對(duì)?

As a representative of Silicon Valley, I’m pleased to tell you there is data   to learn from. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks,   psychologist Martin Seligman found that there are three P’s—personalization,   pervasiveness, and permanence—that are critical to how we bounce back from   hardship. The seeds of resilience are planted in the way we process the negative   events in our lives.

可能有點(diǎn)硅谷的職業(yè)病吧，我想說走出挫折也要科學(xué)對(duì)待。心理學(xué)家馬丁塞利格曼(Martin   Seligman)研究幾十年后發(fā)現(xiàn)，從苦難中振作起來關(guān)鍵是做到三點(diǎn)——不要過分自責(zé)(personalization)、不要過分解讀(   pervasiveness)以及不要以為傷痛永遠(yuǎn)不褪(permanence)。挺過生活中一次次打擊，才能慢慢磨煉出韌性。

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